I have met so many people, and when they see someone they love hurting or when they care about someone that doesn’t love them back, they usually ask ‘what can I do’. Unfortunately there isn’t much you can do, you can’t spend your life trying to make other people ‘happy’ or your version of happy. If you enjoy helping people and encouraging them to be their best, go for it, if that makes you happy, but you can’t turn others into what you want for them. You can’t. You are on your journey in this life and they are on theirs and yes, it can be bloody frustrating when you can see someone’s potential and they can’t see it in themselves.
What I’m trying to say is, you aren’t here to turn yourself into someone that someone else wants. You have to find that person who loves you. And the key to that is working out who you are, what you need in a partner, what sort of person is best suited to you and your beliefs and goals and dreams. Remembering that a lot of those goals and dreams change but having someone with you that will adapt and change as well. Not just to what you want but together, growing together, learning from each other, encouraging each other to be their best but not changing the essence of who that person is.
To me, that is what a soul mate is, someone who will help you see the worst in yourself so that you are able to do something about it, not someone who will try and change you. Someone who will listen to you and not always agree, someone that shares their dreams and listens to yours and doesn’t make fun of them but thinks of ways for you to achieve them. A soul mate won’t always agree with you, they are there to help you discover the best in yourself and to be there for you as you stretch and grow in your journey, the same as you are there to do the same for them. Loving them, regardless of their faults and them loving you regardless of yours. The relationship isn’t perfect, no relationship is, but it’s about wanting to be together and being excited when you see your partner understand their potential and live out their dreams.
Be you. Be the best you that you can possibly be, don’t try and change who you are for anyone else because you will make yourself miserable.