Guilt stop it and change your priorities
Stop the guilt when making decisions!
Do you know just how much of a powerful motivator guilt is?
Guilt traps people in places and relationships that they don’t really want to be in.
It also makes people behave in ways that isn’t true to them.
And it will eventually be turned into resentment.
Resentment for the time that you’ve wasted staying in that relationship, for giving someone so much of your time and your life, for putting so much energy into a relationship when the other person isn’t doing the same.
Resentment that everyone in the family treats you like a piece of dirt or don’t take your feelings / needs into consideration.
What you need to realise is that you’ve trained the people around you, you’ve shown them how to treat you by how you’ve treated yourself.
If you’re always putting everyone’s needs first, I want you to take a moment to ask yourself why.
Why are you putting yourself last?
Stop letting your guilt stop you from saying what needs to be said because you may upset someone.
Stop beating yourself up with thoughts that there’s something that you “should” have done better.
I just want to mention here that guilt isn’t always a bad thing. Guilt can make us think before we act, and that’s a good thing.
What I’m talking about is the guilt that your upbringing, partner or maybe just society has created that stops you from enjoying your life and doing things for you, putting yourself first ….. because it makes you feel guilty.
There’s a number of reasons why we feel guilt and what you need to do is be aware of your actions and words.
Make a note of how you speak about yourself and how often you put your needs last and start changing those actions with no guilt.
I hear so many parents complain that their teenage / adult children don’t help around the house.
You’ve trained them to be lazy little shits with mummy doing everything for them.
You’ve trained them to think they are the centre of the universe and that their needs should always come first …. Tell me, is that a healthy way for an adult to think?
So, start learning to say ‘no’ I can’t help you with that – and walk away without guilt or explanation because you don’t have to explain to anyone why you say no.
Learn to say ‘sorry’ you can’t do that afternoon sport because I’m going for a facial.
Learn to make positive comments about yourself.
I’m not saying stuff everyone and be totally self-centered, it’s about balance, and balance is putting yourself first on an equal level with those that you put first around you.
Because YOU deserve just as much time and attention as anyone else.
Stop giving in because of guilt.