I am so sick of women dragging down other women! Why do they do it? Is it to make themselves feel superior? Is it a competitive thing? This is exceptionally apparent towards mothers, especially when a mother has done something that is perceived as ‘wrong’ it’s mothers judging mothers.
The case in point that made my blood boil was a 2 year old was killed by the TV falling on her when she climbed on the cabinet. The mother left her sitting there watching her favourite TV show and left the room for 5-10 minutes, OMG you should have heard the superior mother warriors come out of the woodwork! ‘You shouldn’t leave a child alone EVER’ was one of the favourites – my reply? Seriously? How the hell can ANY parent or grandparent be with their child 24/7? So, when you’re 2 year old is happily sitting watching their favourite TV show, you’re going to go over, turn the TV off (a guaranteed toddler tantrum would happen then) and say to them, ‘mummy has to hang the clothes on the line, so you have to come with me’. No! You’d bloody well leave them there happy and duck out and hang the clothes on the line and what about cooking dinner? You turn your back on your kids and focus on what you’re doing but looking up occasionally to make sure that they are alright.
Unfortunately, accidents happen and in this case, they didn’t realise that she would be able to pull the TV down on herself and I’ll be honest here, when we bought our TV we were NEVER told that it should be fixed to a wall and we didn’t read the instructions because it’s fucking TV, you unpack it and plug it in, yet again apparently they should have just ‘known’ and that they should have ‘read the instructions’ and because they didn’t, she is the world’s worst mother apparently.
However, the other day a little boy let go of his grandmothers hand and was tragically run over and killed, not one person said anything bad about the grandmother, it was 100% condolences about ‘how little ones can just take off’ yet, I can guarantee if it was the mother who was holding the hand of the little one, she would have been labelled a ‘bad’ mother and ‘I would NEVER let go of my child’s hand when walking along the road’. Because apparently they are all just so fucking perfect and their children will never be left alone to experience life or learn to make a decision for themselves.
It seriously shits me to tears and I have started replying to these women who do it, because I just can’t let it be left unsaid anymore. So, below is an extract of a ‘conversation’ that I had with one of these perfect mothers …… and I would love to hear your comments and what you think about this, have you ever done anything to combat it?
I have removed her name because it doesn’t matter, this isn’t about shaming her, it’s an example of what is happening so often towards mothers – and no spelling or grammar has been corrected, either.

Conversation via Facebook:
HER: Yes an accident but if the mother was aware Jasmine had a habit of climbing the Tv cabinet so didn’t she think twice about leaving the room & especially for that amount of time. It was a careless decision the mother will have to live with for the rest of her life. I think that’s worse than any sentencing.
ME: Seriously? They had pushed the TV back as far as it would go obviously not realising that she could grab it. You can’t be with your kids every second of every day. FFS.
HER: Well if the kid was smart enough to climb up on the tv cabinet then I guess she’s smart enough to grab the tv with it being pushed back all the way.
I have 3 kids of my own and have prevented many tragedies because I choose to supervise my children correctly, never underestimated their abilities and made sure my house was kid proof. Do not underestimate any child’s ability for curiosity. All it takes was for her to climb up on tv cabinet, grab the tv, loose her balance & it falls on top of her.
My son is adha/ odd and I never underestimated him. I would make the effort to check on him regularly.
This mother was gone for up to 10 minutes.
5 mins I understand but 10 minutes was just a little to long for this age especially knowing she’s a climber. 5 minutes into her being unsupervised she may of began to climb the tv cabinet and if the mother checked at this point it could of prevented.
All I said was this tragedy could of been prevented and this poor mother will have to spend the rest of her life in guilt thinking how she could of done things differently.
If a lesson can be learnt from this tragedy let it be all parents go a check their TVs and affix them to a wall or bracket & at the same time check all your windows blind cords and make sure they are high enough so little people cannot reach or they are the safety split cords. The amount of toddler deaths due to hanging themselves with blind cords is way to many and if this post can save atleast 1 little life then I’ve got my point across to atleast someone.
Rest in peace sweet little one
ME: Bravo perfect mother. Give yourself a gold star. Accidents, unfortunately happen all the time and these poor parents have to live with that. Love the keyboard warriors that rip mothers apart when accidents happen.
HER: Wow clearly you cannot read sweetheart. Pretty sure I said YES AN ACCIDENT!
Which could of been prevented!
No need to take the piss out of me hunny your doing a fine job of that yourself. Pathetic Wessel.
Oh and thanks for the nomination. I’m know I’m a great mum but thanks for reminding me.
ME: What’s a Pathetic Wessel?
There are plenty of accidents that can be prevented.
Your comments about yourself as a mother came across as though none of your children ever hurt themselves, because you’re just so perfect. Yet, I’m sure things happened to them that were accidents…. This is not the time to blame the mother, I’m sure she would be beating herself up enough.
HER: Oh wow really? I’m pretty sure they are close to the words I originally posted where you’ve had to come along and make me look bad by stating you can’t be with your kids every second of every day & I NEVER SAID MY KIDS NEVER HURT THEMSELVES I SAID I PREVENTED MANY TRAGEDIES!!
Your as stupid as the come You’ve been put in your place and proved wrong many times and you just keep coming back for more. Give up twit not into school yard bullying so take your issues of trying to control what people say elsewhere
ME: No, you put shit on the mother first and THEN said something along those lines. You’re comment about the mother never needed to be said. I haven’t been proven wrong, you are purposely being ignorant on how your comments would hurt the mother but when I give you a serve back (just like you did her, suddenly I’m a bully? Seriously? that doesn’t surprise me because someone who can’t take a criticism always brings out the ‘bully’ card. I’m simply pointing out that no parent can be with their children every minute of every day and in that time, unfortunately accidents can happen. What do you do with a 2 year old when they are happily watching their favourite cartoon and you need to hang clothes on the line? Turn the TV off and drag them outside with you? Of course you don’t, you leave them sitting their happily watching TV while you go and do what needs to be done. Get over yourself