There is a quote on my little calendar today which goes like this:-

“I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do, because I notice it always coincides with their own desires” – Susan B Anthony

In a way, I actually agree with that, which must sound weird coming from someone who is doing what she knows she is supposed to be doing!  But I kind of fell into this kicking and screaming in a way as it goes against everything I was brought up to believe.

But I think what Susan is getting at, is people use the excuse of “this is my purpose” or whatever just as an excuse to go and do whatever they want, without thought or care for those around them.

As I’ve said before, this is a bugbear of mine, I really don’t like people just throwing in the towel when there are others happiness at stake and I do understand that a fine line could be drawn in regards to whose happiness is more important.  If you are a parent, you’ve chosen to be a parent and that is what you are and what you should continue to do until you’re children are old enough to make some choices for themselves, this could be anywhere, depending on the child from 16 upwards.

If you have decided that you need to live in an Ashram in India for a year or whatever, I personally believe that you shouldn’t do that until you’re children are OK emotionally without you.  If you are married with no children, well off you go then!  That kind of relationship is different.  But I believe that if you choose to be a parent, then that’s a job you have for life and you give up your dreams and desires, to an extent, so that they can be emotionally stable.  If you want to go and study and can do it will still being a parent, then go for it! 

Now, I know I’ll have my detractors, and that’s OK, we’re all allowed to have an opinion, but my concern here is for the children because they didn’t choose to be born (so to speak!) but at the same time, a parent shouldn’t give up their lives completely for their children for all time – kids grow up and parents should let them and at that stage, follow your dreams if you weren’t able to do it while they were still dependant on you.

 My gripe is with those people who use God or Spirit or whatever as an excuse for bad behaviour or just for doing what they want.  I had a lady who came to me for a reading and she was a hoarder but she was adamant that “Spirit wants me to keep these things for a future reason”.  No lady, you’re just a hoarder who is using that as an excuse, which is what I told her and what she most definitely didn’t want to hear.  Oh well, you can’t please them all. J

Have a wonderful week everyone.  Try and keep smiling, I know it can be difficult at times but focus on the little things that make you smile.

Namaste, Katrina