Not happy with your life? Change it, because you are the change. One thing that really gets up my nose is people who constantly blame their childhood / past on what is going on in their life now. You know why? Because pretty well everyone I have ever spoken to has had unpleasant things in their childhood, no-one has had that perfect childhood that others seem to think they missed out on! We’ve all been through shit, we’ve all had struggles of some kind. So, stop using it as an excuse to not be the best person that you can be and don’t allow others around you to use it as an excuse either.

The changes that you need to make won’t be able to be done straight away, but that’s ok. What matters is that you’re starting. Keep focused on where you want to be and pat yourself on the back for how far you’ve come. If you hate your job then look at furthering your education, and don’t use age as an excuse! Start studying in the area that you would like to be in and if you don’t know what that is, then just get some new qualifications. Not everyone has to be the CEO of a company, you know! Don’t like where you live? Then look at moving, research where you would like to be living and if you can afford it, go for it. Maybe you need to finish that study first so you get a better paying job. If you’ve been looking and can’t find anything that you can afford, either lower your standards or look somewhere else and focus on that dream area later on, sometimes we have to take small steps. Is your dream job in another location? Then you’re going to have to move.

If you want to stay right where you are, that’s fine, but don’t whine about it if you want more. Don’t sit there saying ‘it’s not fair’ or ‘others are so lucky’. As my husband and I say, the harder we work the luckier we get. Luck plays no part in most people’s lives – sure some win lotto but they are a small minority, most of the people that you see who are doing alright have worked their butts off to get there. Don’t begrudge them that, I admire anyone who has started with nothing and is now doing really well or even in that millionaire status. Good on them!
I am all for encouraging people who are helping themselves to be better people, however I am not going to enable people who expect everything handed to them on a silver platter without doing anything to help themselves and who use excuse after excuse to not get out of the hole that they have dug for themselves.
If you have people around you who are like this, don’t enable them, encourage them to be better but if they’re not going to step out of their comfort zone or step out of their hole, then don’t waste too much energy on them, if they’re not going to help themselves there is nothing that you can do and remember that sitting there listening to them whinge about their life is enabling them.

So, I’m sure that plenty of you have made that step to live the life that you want and if you haven’t, have a think about what is going to be your first step, because it will be a step in the right direction to an amazing new life.