Let’s take a step back for a moment and look at what grief actually is, because it’s more than just a sadness that happens when someone close to us dies.

Grief is caused by conflicting feelings because something in our lives has come to an end or a pattern of behavior that is familiar to us has changed.

No matter how much you think you may avoid it, at some point in your life you’re going to face dealing with grief. 

Whether that’s the loss of a loved one, a pet, losing your job or a major uncontrollable change in your circumstances, just to name a few.

So, now that you understand what grief is, how do you deal with it?

In your own way.

What may cause feelings of grief to you, won’t to someone else, so don’t compare your reaction to anyone else’s.

Seek professional help.  I know a lot of people think that they should be able to handle things themselves. Well, I’m letting you know that it’s a sign of strength to get professional help.

Make sure that you look after yourself, you still need to eat good food and get out and take in some fresh air.

Say goodbye to the person or situation, again this is in your own way.

One of the hardest things to do when grieving is accepting that things will never be the same.

That for whatever reason your life has irrevocably changed.

If you constantly wish for it to be the way it was, you’re not going to allow yourself to heal.  You’ll be caught in that cycle and the longer you’re in it, the harder it is to get out of it.

We can’t change what has happened but we most certainly can change how we deal with things.

Get angry, be sad, laugh at the funny memories, get those feelings and emotions out! 

Accepting that your life has now changed is a big step in grieving. 

You don’t have to be happy about it, but you need to make the best of the new situation, but take it small and slowly.

It’s normal to be shopping and having a bout of crying when your grieving.  However, when it stops you completely from living, then you need to make sure you do seek professional help.

Be kind to others as more than likely you’re not the only person who has been affected.

Remember, that your partner, family, friends etc. will grieve differently to you and that’s OK.

Don’t judge them if they don’t appear to be grieving like you do.

Most of all be kind to yourself and give yourself time, it gets easier, bit by bit, you’ll never stop missing them but the pain slowly softens.

Katrina-Jane