I believe that many of us confuse forgiveness with acceptance.  To me, they are two very different things.  When we forgive someone we are NOT accepting a particular behaviour or attitude of theirs what we are instead doing is giving permission to love ourselves enough to move on and continue our own lives in a healthy and positive way.

Holding onto the hurt only hurts ourselves, not the other person but when we detach ourselves from the emotion we can clearly decide if who should be in our lives and who we should let go of.

It’s all about detachment and that isn’t easy, no-one is saying it is, it is an incredibly difficult lesson to learn but one that when we have learnt it – provides us with so much freedom to get out and enjoy our lives instead of allowing someone else’s behaviour dictate how we live.