Dealing and living with negative people isn’t easy. For some, it’s also not an option to just not deal with those people anymore, for whatever reason that may be.
So, how do you deal and/or live with a negative person?
Firstly, I think that one of the main things is to understand that they are who they are, sometimes people relish in being miserable, I know that it sounds stupid, but they do, they don’t want things to be ‘fixed’ for them because then they would have nothing to complain about, because when they are able to complain about things, they get attention and more often than not, they get sympathy from those around them, and that just feeds their obsession with being negative.
Secondly, don’t try and change them, this is the hard one because when you’re in a good place, you want everyone around you to be in a good place too, but it’s not your job to change anyone, it’s your job to live the life that you are meant to be living and if someone sees you happy and they want some of that, then by all means offer them some suggestions but until they want to know, just keep it to yourself.
Thirdly, don’t feed the monkey. Seriously, if this person is going to continually complain about the same thing and not do anything about it, don’t let them continue, if they want to complain and rant, let them do it to someone who wants to listen. Just gently, but firmly, tell them that they have complained about this particular issue before and if they haven’t done anything to change the situation, you would rather talk about something else.
They’re going to get snotty, don’t doubt it for a moment and they will continue to try and be negative and you just have to continue to be firm.
They’re going to complain that ‘you’re lucky’ when things go right for you or that you seem to be happy and you have to say that luck had nothing to do with it, you have changed your outlook and how you react to things and that has made you come to a very good place in your life.
Don’t sit there bitching and complaining with them because you’re going to walk away feeling like shit if you do and feel down and yuk because their negativity will just ooze into you and envelope you and you’re then going to have to cleanse yourself, pick yourself up and get yourself back into the good headspace that you were in.
Please note, that I am not talking about someone who is suffering from a mental illness like depression, that’s a whole different ballgame, I’m talking about people who just have a negative outlook on life when they are pretty well the cause of all of their own problems.
Oh and a little tip – when you’ve spent some time with someone like that …. When you have a shower or bath, visualize all their negativity washing off you and going down the drain with the water to be dealt with by Mother Earth and just ask your guides to take away all that isn’t yours. Believe me, it helps!