A common question people ask when having a reading is about their relationship, I personally feel that we seem to have lost the way when it comes to relationships.  I find it amazing that so many women seem to put more effort into organising their wedding than they do in learning about their partner or actually discussing their future lives together and what they both want to achieve.  A relationship is a work in progress, as you grow your opinions change, your views of life change and it’s about growing together and not taking each other for granted, it’s about communicating and listening and respecting each other’s point of view, what you both need from each other and to continually talk about where we are at during any point in our relationship.

No-one is perfect. I bought my Gorgeous Guy a card a long time ago and it said ‘we may not be perfect, but we’re perfect for each other’.  We will all stuff up at some stage, we’re human and that’s what humans do, however, if your partner is truly remorseful for whatever the transgression is then it would be a shame if you weren’t to give them a second chance, I mean if it was in the reverse you would like to be given a second chance wouldn’t you?

I am NOT saying that you need to put up with continual bad behaviour, because you don’t nor should you, there’s a difference in someone continually treating you badly and not learning from their mistakes and someone who wants to make the relationship work and is willing to put the effort in to making that happen.

My Gorgeous Guy and I were chatting with a friend and he asked me why people cheat, because he just couldn’t understand how people do that and my reply was that there is something lacking in their relationship, whether they are feeling neglected, whether it has lost that ‘spark’ and they become attracted to someone else because it makes them feel special in some way.  I also said that at that point when you realise you’re attracted to someone else, is the time to analyse your relationship and work out what it is that is lacking and then have the decency to sit down with your partner and explain what you’re feeling, if you’re partner isn’t willing to meet you halfway, well then the relationship probably isn’t worth proceeding with, yes, there is always give and take but when one is always taking and the other always giving, it’s not equal.  More often than not we take our partners for granted, we wouldn’t treat friends and family that way, and when it gets like that resentment builds.

A relationship is much easier to save before trust is broken.  Before taking that step towards the thrill of an affair you need to ask yourself what you’re throwing away, is it really worth it?  What happens when the thrill wears off? Do you want to still be with that person?

I was just listening to the radio and a lady rang up and she and her husband have been married for 71 years, how awesome is that?

One of the best quotes that I have heard in regards to making a relationship work is this:

“It’s when two people are too stubborn to let the relationship end”.

And that’s what it is, two people who WANT the relationship to work, they’ll talk, work through things and help and be supportive of each other, they will love each other and admit their mistakes and forgive their partners and allow themselves to be forgiven, they take responsibility for their part in the relationship.  It’s about seeing it through to the end.  The wedding dress isn’t important compared to the relationship.