Did you know that being spiritual doesn’t mean you can’t get angry?

This was a huge reminder to me over the past couple of weeks. That it’s OK to be angry. I realised that being spiritual doesn’t mean that I can’t be pissed off!

It also reminded me that being spiritual doesn’t mean you have to take crap either!

How do I reduce all that has happened to a nutshell so I’m not ranting and raving for weeks?! LOL

OK – short story.

Background ……

A friend used to clean for me and then we had a huge falling out resulting in her personally attacking me.

She obviously thinks that being spiritual doesn’t mean you can be pissed off.

Of all things, it was over me suggesting that she clean on the Saturday because the house was having work done on it on the Friday.

The Saturday happened to be her 50th and I acknowledged this but I also knew she needed the money and it was a suggestion not a command.

And well, I’m one that has always worked on birthdays because you know, we don’t often have the luxury of being able to take the day off.

At that time, she attacked me personally on a number of things because how DARE I suggest she clean on her birthday …. WTF?

Because apparently being spiritual doesn’t mean you can suggest someone work on their birthday.

Current circumstance …..

Four years on and we were tentatively chatting when we bumped into each other walking our dogs.

I asked if she’d be interested in cleaning, she said yes.

From past experience I knew she didn’t like anyone home when she cleaned so I left her notes.

Week 3 of cleaning I asked if she could please clean the glass sliding doors as they were dirty.

Came home to a filthy note about minimum wage, cleaning the glass doors being an ‘extra’ etc.

OK, here we go again, an attack on me personally.

Apparently, being spiritual doesn’t mean that you can ask someone to do their job.

I have learnt with age (don’t we all) that it’s best not to reply straight away.

I’m also one of those people that needs to find answers and of course, my immediate thought was, WTF it’s just cleaning some glass doors.

However, I looked up the award for domestic cleaning and found out that I was right and she was wrong. I even looked at different cleaning company websites and what they offered.

Me being me and not really liking confrontation, I left that information for her last week saying that asking her to clean the glass doors wasn’t rude, improper or an ‘extra’ as she accused me.

I came home to another filthy text about her thinking it was an ‘honour’ to clean for me because I’m a clairvoyant but obviously she was mistaken as to the type of person I was blah, blah, blah.

And yes, another attack on me personally.

Because being spiritual doesn’t mean that I’m allowed to point out when someone has stated wrong information.

WTF?

So, allowing myself time to cool off because yes, I’m just as reactionary as anyone else. I left it for a couple of days before sending her a text.

Which went along like this…

Hi XYZ, we’re too busy to put up with someone creating a huge drama over what was a simple request. We appreciate the cleaning you did, there was never any question about that. Would you please leave the key XYZ.

She replied back with me being a narcissist, having an acid tongue, also commenting on the ‘soft porn’ in our hallway (which happens to be a professional boudoir photo shot my Gorgeous Guy wanted me to have done and that’s where he wanted to hang it).

A whole stack of personal attacks.

Hmmm, being spiritual doesn’t mean well, I have no fucking idea what she’s thinking by this stage!

Now, I do know that when people do this, there are a number of reasons for it.  They suffer from low self-esteem so need to try and make themselves feel better by trying to drag others down.

Maybe they’re a narcissist themselves and they have to make it all about them.

Perhaps they’re just to damn stubborn or stupid to admit that they were wrong!

Whatever the reason, being spiritual doesn’t mean you or I have to take their abuse and crap.

I can’t change the way that people think about me, but I most certainly can change what I allow someone to say to me or treat me.

So please, don’t think that being spiritual doesn’t mean you can’t set boundaries.

Being spiritual doesn’t mean you can’t be sexy or like materials things.

It also doesn’t mean that you can’t have all the normal human emotions, because guess what?!

You’re HUMAN!

So, cut yourself a bit of slack.

Katrina-Jane