When the topic of toxic people comes up, most people think of controlling people, people who are out to get you, people who are cruel and uncaring.
The fact is a lot of toxic people have good intentions and may care for you deeply. The reason that they are classed as toxic is because they are trying to push their needs and their way of living in this world onto you, they are in fact toxic to your wellbeing, but that doesn’t mean that they are a ‘bad’ person, they are just unwilling to accept that their ways aren’t necessarily what is best for you.
Having them close to you means you are forced to compromise yourself, your beliefs and your happiness. Again that doesn’t mean that they are bad, they just aren’t the right person for you.
And as difficult as it is, you have to let them go. I think life is hard enough without being around people who are going to bring you down, there is a difference to someone pointing out different options and giving you different things to think about, who in the end allows you to make the choices that you want, but that person who isn’t supportive at all isn’t good for you. It doesn’t matter how much you care about them or they you, you can’t destroy who you are for the sake of someone else.
It’s time to make your wellbeing a priority, because you matter, your needs matter just as much as everyone else’s and just because someone close to you can’t understand that or doesn’t want you to be true to who you are, doesn’t give them the right to put you down and to not be supportive. We are all on our own journey and we have to live it the way that is best for us, mistakes and all.
This may mean that you have to break up with someone that you care about, or it could be that you need to put distance between you and a family member, letting go of a friend or removing yourself from a painful situation – you have every right to do this, you have every right in the world to leave that toxic person and create for yourself a space that is safe for you to grow and nurture yourself and to also allow people into your life that will help you in growing and being the best that you can be.