You, know, I think it’s funny when someone accuses me of not ‘being a spiritual person’.

Usually because of something that I’ve said and more than likely because I’ve either used the ‘F’ word or made some sarcastic remark …..

Or just been plain old me.

Let’s be honest here, I think that everyone has their own interpretation / take on what being spiritual is, so here’s my take on it.  You may agree or you may disagree.

Being spiritual DOESN’T mean:-

  • That you can’t set boundaries. By boundaries I mean being spiritual doesn’t mean you have to take shit off people.
  • That you aren’t allowed to stand up for yourself and not be disrespected.
  • That you can’t be sexy. If you like sexy clothing, lingerie or kinky shit? Go for it! As long as what you’re wearing or doing isn’t causing harm to anyone, hey… who am I to judge what goes on behind closed doors between consenting adults!
  • That you can’t like stuff, like shoes (god I LOVE shoes!) or ‘bling’, or having a nice car.
  • That you can’t get angry or swear. If you know me, you know that I swear all the fucking time! I also get extremely pissed off, especially when people aren’t patient and demanding of my time.
  • You brag about what level of ‘attainment’ you think you’ve reached in some heavenly hierarchy
  • You think that you’re above / more enlightened than others
  • That you have to be positive all the time (that’s bullshit!)

Being Spiritual DOES mean:

  • That you should be respectful to others and their boundaries as well.
  • That others are allowed to disagree with you.
  • That your job isn’t to try and convert people to your way of thinking.
  • That even though you like pretty things, that you aren’t keeping up with the Jones’ or trying to impress anyone with what you own.
  • That you don’t become jealous because someone has something that you don’t – it means that you’re not caught up in buying stuff all the time.  But hey, if you like to occasionally treat yourself to something pretty or blingy or that you’ve always wanted, go for it.  You deserve it.
  • That you don’t let anger stew inside of you.  That you get angry and then let it go.  You don’t let it consume you.
  • That you don’t base your decisions on anger or to ‘get back’ at others.
  • That you live your life the best way that you can and not the way others want.
  • That you lead a life that is about being conscious and aware. Being authentic to yourself.

In essence, I believe that being spiritual isn’t all love and light?  

Personally, I’m a ‘love and light and go fuck yourself’ kind of person.

We’re all humans with emotions, and as far as I’m concerned, it’s OK to be happy, mad, sad, upset, cranky, stupid, earn money and to make mistakes.

Why?  Because by experiencing any of those things shows that we are human. 

That we’re growing every single day. 

That we’re learning from others and also by our own reactions. 

The key here, is not to let those emotions rule us.  To also be compassionate: not just to others but to ourselves as well. 

Being spiritual also doesn’t mean that you won’t experience anything ‘bad’ happening to you. 

What it does mean is that you can look beyond the ‘bad’ to the light and get through those tough times easier.

Being spiritual doesn’t mean that you are supposed to be positive all the time

If you think being a spiritual person is some perfect person who never feels a single emotion or shows any humanity at all, then you’ll never find that person because they just don’t exist. 

What you need to strive to be is ‘authentic’.  Being authentic to who you are as a person.  Because when you’re living a life where you are authentic, you’ll feel everything – the positive and the negative.

Cut yourself some slack, relax and enjoy life because that is what this journey is about.

Namaste.

Katrina-Jane