So many people are looking for their soulmate. But what is a soulmate? Who is it that you’re really looking for? Are you looking for that knight in shining armor to rescue you from your life, or that princess who will make all your dreams come true?
I believe too many people are looking for a fantasy that just doesn’t exist and when they’re in a great relationship and something goes wrong, they run a mile because it didn’t work out as they had wanted.

I believe that a soulmate is someone that will make you be your best but also show you, your worst and no-one likes to see their worst. They are your best friend, and best friends are able to tell each other the truth without expecting their heads to be ripped off, because sometimes the truth hurts. They know everything about you, all your imperfections and they love you regardless. They are someone that will encourage you, lift you up and want you to be your best, but allow you to do it in your own way, in your own time and be so proud of you when you do.
A soulmate is someone who will stick by you and want to make it work no matter what shit gets thrown around, because the essence of the relationship is there, that soul connection that even though they are hurting they will still love you. You are going to fight with your soulmate, they will make mistakes in the relationship and so will you. You know why? Because we are human.
Now, after reading that and I’m sure so many will go ‘yes, that’s what I’m looking for’ – are you willing to be their soulmate? Are you willing to believe in them no matter what? To lift them up and encourage them in their dreams? Are you willing to forgive their mistakes when they hurt you? Are you willing to make the relationship work, no matter how hurt you may be? Are you willing to give it your all regardless of what shit gets thrown at you in life? Or are you going to run because you got hurt? Are you going to throw in the towel because your soulmate didn’t live up to your unrealistic expectations of a ‘perfect’ relationship?
You have to be the other person’s soulmate as well as they yours, it takes two to make a relationship work and two to destroy it.
Stop thinking that the perfect relationship means that you never get hurt, that no mistakes are ever made – this isn’t a fairy tale its life and shit happens. But are you willing to give it your all and shovel that shit together or just think ‘it’s all too hard’ and give up. If you both do that, then you’re not with your soulmate, and you’re also not a soulmate either.
Remember that.
You have to be a soulmate as well.