According to the dictionary a soulmate is:  a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.

So many people are constantly looking for that elusive person, their soulmate. 

Unfortunately, and I do believe that this is because of modern technology, people are wondering if there is ‘someone better’ out there for them, even when they have the most amazing partner.

If you fall into that category stop and think for a minute, that while you’re busy wondering if someone else out there is better for you, you may just lose the one that is perfect for you because you’re not allowing yourself to be fully in the relationship.

Have another read of that definition of soulmate.

A person who is ideally suited – get that?  IDEALLY suited to you!

They aren’t going to be perfect. So, if you’re looking for someone that is going to be ‘perfect’ for you, then you’re going to be looking for a very long time.

Your soulmate is that person who is going to pull you right out of your comfort zone.  They are the one who is going to make you think twice about things and help you go and be and do all those things that you’ve been scared to. 

You know why?  Because your soulmate is someone who can see you far better than you can see yourself.  They can see where you’re holding yourself back and they can see where you would best shine.

They want you to be the best that you can possibly be and that the only person holding you back from achieving those amazing limits is you.

And you know what?  You’re not always going to like it. 

We don’t like looking within ourselves, we like our comfort zones. 

You’re going to put up blocks, have arguments and disagree with things, that doesn’t mean that they’re not your soulmate.

When you find your soulmate don’t think for one moment that you’re going to be a Disney love story. That it’s going to be all roses and romance. 

You’re going to butt heads, argue like you wouldn’t believe, but the difference when you’re with your soulmate is that you’ll work it out.  You’ll both compromise, not just one of you.

You’ll both do whatever it takes to make the relationship work.  You’ll both stuff up at times, because remember no-one is perfect.

Your soulmate is that person who is going to make you realise that you are a whole person.

You’re complete just as you are.  You are that perfect chocolate cake with chocolate ganache and you know what your soulmate is?  They are that dollop of cream with the strawberry right on top. 

That cake (you) is perfect just as it is, but with that dollop of cream and strawberry (your soulmate) it just makes it all that much better.

Your soulmate will be standing in the wings cheering you on, being your number one supporter.

They’ll also be bringing you down a peg or two when you need it and they’ll be so bloody incredibly proud of all of your achievements.

They are like an artist there to refine the masterpiece that you already are.  That to me, sums up what a soulmate is.

The important thing to remember here is this:

Whatever it is YOU are looking for in your soulmate, that person who is all of those things that I mentioned? 

That also means YOU have to be their soulmate and all of those things to them too.  Because when you find your soulmate, you need to bloody well make sure that you’re their soulmate as well.

That you’re there for them, supporting them, cheering them on as they achieve all that they are capable of achieving. 

You’re the support team for each other and what a dynamic force you will be when you find them.

Katrina-Jane