What I’m wanting to talk about this week is removing toxic people from your life.

I’m going to keep it short and sweet.

You shouldn’t EVER feel guilty about removing people that are toxic.

NEVER.

Believe me, they’ll try and make you feel guilty about not speaking to them or associating with them, but that’s a part of their toxicity.

I’m not just talking casual friends.

Because toxic people can be a relative, your partner, employer, childhood friend or that new acquaintance.

The thing is, you don’t need to make room for them at all, when they cause you pain.

Or if they make you feel small.

Now, I’m not talking a one off here, when someone says something and that makes you feel small.

You don’t just wipe them out of your life.

If you make them realise what they’ve done and they own up to it and their behaviour and put in the effort to change permanently, then you don’t have to remove them.

On the other hand, if after you’ve told them how their words/actions make you feel and they just disregard your feelings.

If you set a boundary and they continue to ignore it.

If they continue to treat you in a harmful way to you.

They need to be removed from your life.

That means, not replying to their text messages / phone calls.

Block their number.

Don’t answer any number that you don’t know who the person is as often they’ll use someone else’s phone to get to you.

Block their emails.

If a mutual friend starts to talk about them, set the boundary that you don’t want to know what’s going on in their life and you don’t want them to know what’s going on in yours.

If that friend ignores your boundary …. You remove them as well.

I know it can be difficult to do this, especially with family or a partner, but you need to think of your long-term wellbeing.

You can’t worry about if you ‘hurt’ their feelings.

They’ve shown you no respect. If they haven’t kept to the boundaries that you’ve set, then walk away because they don’t really care about you at all.

Love & light

Katrina x